A while ago I did a short series of shoots with mums and daughters. It is something that is very close to my heart as I lost my own mum when I had just turned 20. Being a bit of a rebellious teen, I obviously didn’t want any pictures taken with my parents. I was too fat, too this too that. Something I still regret – I do not have one picture of us together as adults.
Stacey and her mum early last year
Today I read a post from the ridiculously talented photographer and beautiful inside and out, Denise Birdsong. Denise sadly lost her mum last year, and this is what she had to say.
“My name is Denise Birdsong; I am the owner creative director and principal photographer at Modern Love Photography and International educator at Stripped Down. I own a thriving photography business located in the San Francisco Bay Area where I shoot weddings, boudoir photography, editorial and fashion photography. I also teach the art of emotion in photography to other photographers around the world.
I have 7K beautiful square feet of amazing studio, gorgeous sets, lighting, wardrobe, gear, I have it all. All the things a photographer could want, what I don’t have is beautiful portraits with my mom, of my mom with my babies, of her beauty and radiance
This is my story, and I hope that you will take the time to listen so that you can do things differently than I did, so you don’t miss the opportunity to document the great loves of your life!
My mom would often ask me, when are you going to take my picture? When can we have photos taken together? My response was always when I have the time, but I was making bull shit excuses, I didn’t want to get in front of the camera, I didn’t feel good enough about myself, the woman who preaches to all women how beautiful they are was a hypocrite. She knew how important it was, she saw the beauty in me, and she knew the importance of our love, she kept asking, kept trying to tell me, I didn’t listen…
My mom received a terminal diagnosis in February of 2015; we were told we had a few weeks to a few months. One of the first things I did was reach out to my colleague and friend Sue Bryce, I started to arrange a booking to fly her into SF and shoot my mother and my family. We were working on dates and then out of nowhere my mom started improving the Dr’s even told us we had more time, that it might not be terminal after all, but then a secondary infection attacked her system. It all happened so fast . On Mother’s day, after telling me how much she loved me and always would she passed away…
The portrait session didn’t happen in time and I am left sitting here, talking to you today with a new understanding of the incredible importance of my job and a broken heart that I do not have these photos of my mother…”
So I have decided to revive this project. This is so new I have as yet not sorted out all the details, but if you would like to be involved contact me in the usual ways. This project is for everyone. For mums, for grans, for tweens and teens. Please, please, please lets value what we have and record it forever.
you can find Denise’s work here